Pastor Mark’s sermon on Peace had a lot of nuggets that I have been pondering on since I heard it. One of these nuggets on peace (using peace as an acronym) was the letter ‘A’ and was a timely reminder for us as men.
The letter ‘A’ in peace referred to “Attack” where we were encouraged to “attack the problem, not the person.”
The context for us men was that this reference is very relatable to marriage and the way we are supposed to treat our spouse.
We were reminded that marriage is a covenant, not a contract. In this regard, we were encouraged to do seven (7) things with regards to attacking the problem, not the person. The seven things are:
1) Never compare
2) Never condemn
3) Never command
4) Never challenge
5) Never condescend
6) Never contradict
7) Never confuse
We were reminded that our spouse does not complete us, JESUS completes us!
As men, we sometimes what to do things our way. There is nothing right or wrong about this, it’s just the way we are sometimes. However, if we make His way our way, then things are so much better.
Keeping and maintain peace, especially in a marriage, gets easier when Jesus is part of the equation.
For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.– Ephesians 5:23-28 (NIV) emphasis mine